Precious in His Sight

If someone asked what you felt you needed to have a fulfilled life, what would you list? Money? A job? A home of your own? Lots of friends? A full schedule? A college degree? A boyfriend or girlfriend?

While I’ll tell you that none of these things will truly fulfill your life, I want to hone in on the last one. It seems to be that so many people look to that one to measure their worth. It seems like people are just so desperate to be with someone that they just settle for whoever will accept them. Maybe they’re just trying to look like everyone else, or are in some sort of competition or race to get a special someone before other people in their life, or before they’re a certain age, or whatever the case may be. Maybe they want to date or “be with” someone simply because they think it will be “fun.” Or perhaps they think it will show others maturity or that they’re “old enough” to have a relationship like that. There is even the possibility of pressure from people in their life who think they should no longer be single. I don’t know what your personal reasons are today, but no matter what they are, having a boyfriend or girlfriend, husband or wife isn’t going to complete you. It’s not going to fulfill your life. Your worth isn’t going to change when you gain or lose a partner.

As humans, it’s natural to long for companionship. It’s natural to want that special someone in your life. It’s hard not to look around at everyone else and wish you were paired up too sometimes. I think it’s a good thing, especially these days, to desire to get married and live life with a spouse and possibly kids. So it’s not necessarily wrong for you to want to be with someone. It can just be dangerous to settle. And to look to your relationship status for validation and worth.

Just like you are not your job, or your past, or your physical appearance, you are not your relationship status. It’s ok if you’re single. It’s ok if you’ve always been single. It’s ok if you’ve dated and none of the relationships have gotten very far or worked out. You are a unique creation of God. He made you intentionally. He cares about you and your life. He loves you, more than anyone on earth could ever love you. And if it’s in His plan for you to get married one day, He has just the right person in mind for you. You just have to wait on His timing, which I know can be hard, but it will be worth it.

Dating and marriage and romantic relationships are very serious things, not to be handled or navigated lightly. It’s important to find someone who will treat you right and someone who values the same things as you do. Don’t settle for the first person to come along and ask you out just because they act interested. Don’t chase after someone who doesn’t deserve you. Don’t waste your time with someone you know you wouldn’t want to marry. Remember that your relationship with God is the most important relationship you could ever have, and that He is more loving and faithful than anyone else could ever be. You are so precious, and worth so much more than you realize. <3

“How precious also are Your thoughts to me, O God! How vast is the sum of them! If I should count them, they would outnumber the sand. When I awake, I am still with You.”

Psalm 139: 17-18